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The Lost Art of Asking for Help

The Lost Art of Asking for Help

I was attending a webinar the other day. As the speaker shared their ideas though, my mind began to wander…

For some reason, I began to think about the overall reluctance of folks to ask for help. As I reflected on it across my 30+ years of experience, it’s something that I’ve continuously observed. It seemed like individuals, teams, leaders, agile coaches, and nearly everyone (me included) has an aversion to asking for help.

And while there are clearly reasons for not asking for it, I wondered about any positive outcomes of asking for help.

  • First, and importantly, it helps you.

  • It also humanizes you.

  • It allows others to, as they help you, to grow themselves.

  • It creates a culture where others can ask for help based on your example.

  • It can increase psychological safety.

  • It avoids us pretending that we know everything or doing things we aren’t skilled to be doing.

  • It’s simply a more honest and open way to operate.

As I began to think about it more deeply, I came to the conclusion that the simple act of—

Saying—I don’t know.

Asking—Can you help me or I need your help.

It can change the entire cultural landscape of your team or organization. I think it’s that BIG of an idea.